I know I’ve said it before, but I hate being asked a polite social question and not remembering to reciprocate. How hard can it be to respond to a question of ‘how are you?’ and to then ask ‘you?’ at the end of your reply? Well, for me, very hard!
Is it a social disorder? Processing issue? What?!?
It happens all the time and people must find me extremely rude; quite frankly, I find it rude, yet no matter how much I moan about it, I can’t seem to change it. Today was another occasion when I was asked this question, actually I’m asked it most days during the week by this friend and although I never ask her, she still asks me without provocation.
Sometimes, like today, I remember that I need to ask the same but I usually think it after a minute or so has past. This wouldn’t be a problem out and about but when you have 30+ children in the room, it’s a little harder to fit it in around the sudden change in activities. I wouldn’t be able to say ‘you?’ a few minutes later as the conversation or timing has gone, it’s out of sync. In order to show interest, which I have a lot of, I’d have to think about it, reprocess the question and form it into something that links into what has been said previously. For example. ‘what about you, everything good with you?’.
Now, to start, as I don’t usually reciprocate, doing so out of the blue will stand out, but it needs to be done in order to not seem so uncaring and self-centred. Also, don’t think by any means what I have just done is easy, think about how I’ve explained the process; the way I’ve written it is the way I think it – slowly, consciously aware of what I’m thinking, it isn’t automatic.
Do others have this issue with thought and speech? As I’ve said in previous posts, mine isn’t limited to just speech but also reading and understanding some things or general conversations: I can’t seem to speed up the thought banks or retrieve any kind of thought in response to some peoples conversations! When someone asks me a question, sometimes it takes me a while to retrieve the understanding of a word from my memory bank. I can appear slow, unresponsive or might even question the question while I’m grasping at what it means before being able to answer it, making me seem stupid.
I’d love to find out the reasons behind it, how or why it happens and what other people think when they read or talk.